i’ve heard a lot of people say “don’t reach out to your friends first and see how many people will remain in your life. those are your true friends” and i get it. it sucks and it’s tiring constantly being the one to message first, to initiate hang outs but don’t take this so literally. some friendships require initiation. i have lost touch with so many people who genuinely cared about me and wanted me in their life because i stopped reaching out. it’s a hard pill to swallow but honestly some people just suck at it and it doesn’t mean they don’t love and value you. i’ve reconnected with some people over the past few months and it’s crazy how genuinely happy they are to see me and how engaged they are in the conversation. i just think sometimes we’re too harsh on each other & too quick to emphasize other peoples flaws and remove them from our lives but then we’ll all be alone and what’s the point of life then!!!!

i still want to start going by a more gender neutral name but still thinking about it.


tbh im really leaning towards ren, eli or leo.

i figure i should post this here too. but i’ve realized i’m nonbinary. i’m still okay with she/her pronouns but if you can also refer to me with he/him and they/them that would also be great.


and well. let’s just say the signs were there all long like feeling off, thinking way too hard and often about my gender identity, constantly imagining myself as the opposite sex. i just kinda well, repressed all these thoughts and feelings for well over a decade and stayed quiet about it.